SR MELISSA DWYER

DON’T WAIT TO BE PERFECT!

SEARCH FOR A SENSE OF PEACE

The Courage to Say “Yes”

One thing is certain, discerning God’s will for your life is not an easy task! There are so many great ways we can serve God, but discovering the vocational path that God calls us on, and having the courage to take the step to explore it, isn’t easy! God doesn’t send us a text message to tell us what to do, but I believe that the radical journey of becoming who God calls us to be is an exciting adventure.

The most important element of discernment is prayer. We need to ground ourselves in our personal relationship with God, and dare to ask God the question, “What do you want me to do for you?” Any vocational path, whether its married life, priesthood, religious life or single life, is about finding the ways we can fully express our love for God in daily life. The more we invest in growing in our love for God through giving time to prayer, the more clarity we discover around how we are called to live out this fullness of life in Christ.

It can be beneficial to have someone who is trusted and can help us to listen to what the Spirit is saying. This might be a Spiritual Director, a mentor or a trusted friend. It can often be wise to not talk to too many different people about your vocational discernment, as sometimes the more opinions we hear, the more confused we become!

Stepping out in faith is also important in our discernment journey. When I first considered Religious Life, I had no idea what it really meant to be a consecrated woman. In my journey of discernment, I was waiting for God to send me a sign. I’ve since discovered that God reveals Himself along the way. We don’t need to wait to have absolute 100% clarity before we begin to explore a possible vocational pathway, especially if it’s priesthood or religious life. We need the courage within to put out into the deep and trust that God is with us. Don’t wait to be perfect! Yet search for a sense of peace in the discernment space, for where you find peace is possibly where God is calling you.

Having God in your life, and seriously discerning God’s dream for you, is an ongoing process. When we say “yes” to God, it’s not only once. Living our vocation is about a daily response to God’s loving invitations in our lives. It helps me to remember that God doesn’t need our capacity, He needs our availability. The challenge is to trust God and have the courage to dare to be different.

At this moment in history, our Church and our world are so desperately in need of committed men and women who are willing to have God at the centre of their lives. Let us dare to be extraordinary in living out our love for God in daily life. And let us pray for the grace of open hearts to allow God to fulfil His dream for our lives – whatever that might look like!

SR MEL WILLIAMS

“THERE IS JOY WHEN THAT TRUTH IS FOUND.”

Abide in my Love
John 15:10

After sixty years of consecrated life as an Ursuline, there is a long way to look back but it is a look that brings great joy. Long before convent life the joy began with my parents, brother, sister and extended family. I believe that is where I learnt how God could love. Then boarding school with the Ursulines drew me into the world of intentional meditation as each morning before mass the sister in charge shared with us her contemplation of the day’s gospel. In class we were introduced to the Ignatian pattern of prayer as we assembled our own ‘little meditation books’ where we learnt to pray with the constant desire to ‘know, love and serve Him’.

I was drawn to the Ursulines because they were an attractive group of individual women and they were respectful and loving towards their students. To join a religious Order at this time was considered quite a wonderful thing to do because it was seen then as a valued way of life. In our more secular society today, I don’t think it is viewed the same way.

In the early years, I felt great fulfilment and satisfaction as a teacher of young women. Imparting knowledge is exciting but drawing out the individual possibilities and seeing how each young one can flourish is more so.

Much of my life has been in formation roles within the Order, firstly as directress in the Novitiate where young women came to see if they were called to religious consecration or not. Central to my role at this time was the close accompaniment of each one in order to help discern if this desire was from God. This close accompaniment demanded constant attentiveness, a deep respect for the person in formation, knowledge of the ways of God and among other things an ability to wait.

An accompanier, as the word indicates, is not one of the main players. This business is between God and the person and it is the role of the one accompanying to walk beside the novice, instructing her in prayer and practices which develop closeness to God. And to help her interpret what is happening. The one accompanying also has to observe the signs in the life and actions of the one in formation to see if this is where she is happy and fulfilled. Discernment is seeking the truth and there is joy when that truth is found. Joy at one remaining who goes on to take vows and joy when one leaves. No way of life is greater than another. Just different.

In my role as formator it has been necessary at every stage to have my own spiritual director to see more clearly where God is in my life. Supervision was most important for me when I became director of our International Tertianship. This is a seven-month time in Rome for Ursulines from various countries and it takes place for them about ten years after first profession. With a multicultural group of women from different backgrounds, ministries and experiences I had to constantly stop and reflect on my practice with a qualified person as supervisor so as to enable the best outcomes for the sisters. Both spiritual direction and supervision keep us from deluding ourselves and help us to be true!